Category: the Rant Board
It seems that each day, I meet another asshole on here. Why is it that everyone has to attack each other. There are people on here who just attack others for no reason. They make up something so they have something to say. It's sad. I just don't understand.
You'll get over it.
It's sad to see people that should get along bash each other but as the other poster said it si a part of life. We just gotta ignore and rise above it . I need to learn that even at my age.
Try not to let this kind of thing bother you. I agree it's all around you not just here but other places on the net. There is no such thing as a happy go lucky community where all get alone. You're bound to get one person to stir up controversey or anger amung others.
yeah, it's best to just ignore it...some people just don't have manners and those of us who do should just let it roll off.
~bella
It's hard to get used to at first but you'll get used to it. Hugs.
I agree with bash on this... It's evil... really, now? Do these people have anything else better to do? I mean, their bloody lives are spent bashing the good...
it's because they have nothing better to do gb. that's the problem you see. not only that, people think they can have net personalities and separate them from real life. well what then happens if you meet someone from the internet completely by accident and they find out that you are the asshole that said something nasty etc etc. it invaribly will back fire because they will catch themselves right out.
Thanks, exactly how I feel.
Bashful, the best thing you can do is just use whatever tools there are on the site, such as the ignore features so you don't have to even see a syllable from such people again. Be lucky you can do it here, as you can't do it in real life, so you actually have an advantage. I didn't look at your profile to see how old you are, but when I was a teenager and a twenty-something, I wished people could all get along and be nice and rise above the crap. Problem is, people aren't ready to do such things yet, so you have to shrug and accept that some people are just jerks, avoid them, find the good ones, and try not to be a jerk yourself. Like others have said, there are those folks who think since nobody really knows them, they can say and do what they will and get away with it because you're just typing and you're not really affecting anyone else's feelings. I know I tend to be somewhat more blunt on these boards then I might be in real life, but it's not like I have this total fake net personality I use either.
They do it to get a rise out of everyone. They like that because it gives them attention. If people ignored their shit, which is easier said than done, I bet they wouldn't think it was fun anymore.
I know, Bashful, but asswholes are everywhere. Not only here but in your every-day-life. So, either you put them on ignore or you just ignore them in your mind - one day you'll get used to it.
I'd like to disagree with lv's comment. people can in fact have different personalities than on the net. for instance. ont he net, I'm super outspoken, but in person I'm shy and interverted
You know, I think people want disagreement and arguments on internet sites in general. Either the boards are full of arguments and people complaining about the fact or people are complaining about how boring it is on here. It's a fact, people need and want some drama from time to time, especially online. And I 100% agree with Liam, people can have totally different personalities on and off line, seriously, how many sexual discussions would you see like this in real life, I bet you prettty much no discussion of shaving or whatever would come up. Whether it's cool or not that people can be so outspoken online is something left up to your taste or judgement but it's just a proof that online communities differ drastically from the "real world" one even if it's exactly the same people who are involved.
cheers
-B
Hi Bashful,
I think one of the reasons is that some people think nice is boring, and they'd rather be mean and obnoxious than be boring. Well, if not being obnoxious, and being pleasant and friendly is boring, I'm quite content with being a boring stiff. I'm 46 years old, but understand how you feel, since I was a teen once myself, and back then, my feelings got hurt at the slightest sharp tone, or, my favorite thing to come back with when I felt I was being verbally attacked was, go jump off the empire state building. Although I'm older now, if I feel someone is trying to start something with me, I still have those same feelings I did when I was a teen, I feel I have to somewhat hold back and not let go 100 percent, because society has conditioned us to think that when we're older, we're suppose to be more mature, though sometimes I don't feel mature. That's one of the reasons I don't come on here much anymore, and had planned to just come on here once a month, and read and not reply, or even start topics, but my good friend cat lover has a home computer now, so I can talk to her in the evenings. So, if people start verbally attacking you, just put them on ignore, and it won't be any fun for them anymore. it's easy to ignore someone when you can't see their posts, lol. So, this site works for me as long as I don't come on the boards on a continual basis, or post very much. I mostly only post now when I like a suggestion on the suggestions board, or when I sympathize with someones' point of view or feelings. So, you take care, and good luck to you,
wonderwoman
Like I said, some people don't think others on the net are real people with real feelings so they can get away with saying many things they wouldn't say in real life. Some people might be meek people who wish they were tough and bold and use the internet to live out their fantasies of being the bad guy when they don't have the nerve to do it in real life. As for me, if being nice or whatever I am is boring, go ahead and be bored. If you expect me to entertain you, I expect generous and prompt payment in American dollars, please! LOL!
yep totally agreed with Lab here. I always say it's so easy to hide behind a keyboard. I think while with some, what you see online is what you get offline applies (myself being one of them), the other lot see it to be bullies. and yes, it's very easy for some to forget about true individual feelings when the other party can be miles away and just a voice or an immage on the screne. Sad but true! I can't hack it, for example when people think they can bully me and attack me just cos I'm another name on the internet, but it's something I've had to accept and deal with at times and accept that it's the Net where people can be who they want.
agree with you fully.
yes it's pathetic. i mean why bother? i'm the same online as i am offline. makes no difference. what you see is what you get. am not going to live a lie for anybody. i don't see the point.
Am I the same person online and offline or am I a different person online?
good question *smiles*
good question *smiles*
Yep, Rdfreak, and the cool thing about the internet and this site is that if you are being bullied, you are not forced to even give that person a second of your time. You can put them on ignore or just plain not respond at all. You can't do it in real life in a lot of cases.
Lord Voldemortß Everyone can say that they are the same online like in their real life but, we don'T know. LOl.
But I believe you. But there are a lot of people who are not and I think this is stupid.
Greetings Megan. I really can't say it any better than Labyrinth already has... People will be people. Every orchard we plant is destined to yield several bad fruits, and all it takes sometimes is one bad fruit to ruin the entire bushel.
I think people who find internet or chat line drama entertaining need... a life. I've never been fond of such things, which is why you don't see me involved in a lot of conversations on the zone.
You're a nice girl, but there are bad guys... and girls. Just weed out the rotten apples and eat the nummy ones left over, kk?
True.
its everywhere you go, so just dont pay attention to it. those people are just seeking a reaction, and you shouldn't give them what they want. they arent worth your time obviously.
There are many ways you can ignore people on here, so use it in stead of just complaining all the time, people are assholes, jerks, idiots and some would do anything to piss someone off, you'll just have to learn to either ignore it or deal with it, like the real world which is not ideal, zone isn't either and if we started sencering things this place wouldn't be what it is, however noone is forcing you to read anything or here or to comunicate with anyone on here you feel you don't wish to. As for online/offline personality? i'm exactly same online, I got nothing to hide on the internet and I act exactly the same, if you don't believe it ask those who know me.